Arrgg. This was not an easy week for me I almost let my anger toward shady jealous people in the work place and my own ego change who I am . The good news is that I really worked hard to rise above it I don’t always manage to do that but I caught myself in time to center myself in what I know is true. The truth is that I will prevail and that what is due to me will come to me regardless of how hard my enemies try to prevent my good work from seeing the light.
We all have people in our lives that try to make us feel little and unimportant who seemingly go out of their way to undermine us and work against us . Sometimes these people are family members, so called friends a boss or co-workers. They are everywhere and its our job not to let them change who we are and what good we are working toward. This takes tolerance, patience and courage all principles that we can practice if we seek them out.
Steps to take during a difficult confrontation with negative people:
1. Listen carefully , Stay calm. Do not impulsively lash out.
2. Do not be passive.. Calmly make your feelings known.
3. Do not show them how angry you are ” He who angers you controls you”
4. Distance yourself from the negative people if possible ( usually not possible )
5. Once you have had a moment to be alone try to see if you could have done something differently to have avoided this painful moment, be honest but not hypercritical of yourself . The answers will come if you are seeking the truth.
6. Make a decision to be the good person that you are even in the face of the unkind treatment. Make the decision to not let them get to you. Support this decision with daily affirmations where you seek & ask yourself for the important principles needed to rise above the obstacles.
7. Take 5 – 10 minute ( or more if you can spare it ) to sit in a calm quite room, speak to yourself quietly. Tell your self you are good and that you will not let the negativity get you down. You are the light and the darkness of the world will not dim that light. Patience, courage and tolerance will be you protector on your journey. Repeat this as needed and you will begin to grow confident and stronger.
8. Keep working hard and don’t quit – find the beauty in your journey.
Sweet, sweet snow days… Today in NYC I woke to several feet of fluffy white snow, almost nothing stops us from scurrying around and dealing with our mounds of “gotta get it done today” urgent work like lots of snow that comes down all at once during our sleeping hours.
I’m always grateful for the tiny break that forces us to hibernate behind the impassable roads and limited train service. What to do with this precious time is really the question?
I had a thousand ideas about how to spend my time today, in the end I chose something I rarely choose, I chose to not do much. I chose to slowdown to maybe give myself a bit of a break and stop my constant excessive thinking and mental problem solving… Compassion for myself, today that was my lesson. After all if you don’t practice self compassion how can we spread compassion and kindness to others.
I am learning that how much you love yourself is directly correlated to how much love and kindness you can give to others in your life, so my advise on this chilly white night is to draw a bath and light a candle and tell yourself your good enough just as you are.
Be grateful for your gifts and your flaws just the same.
Tomorrow, when we go back out there let’s try to spread the love we gave ourselves to others that it might create a ripple effect of goodness that changes the world in a tiny way. Open a door for a person, smile at the grumpy man on the train, hold the elevator for the lady who is running late. It all matters.
The above photo is of a beautiful painting depicting an incredibly chic family (look at their outfits!!) on a equally chic snowy street. I don’t know the name of the painting but I think I took the photo in a museum in Sweden. Does anyone know the name? thanks & sweet dreams.